We don’t always choose who we fall in love with, to the point that sometimes we find ourselves falling for an older man. Actually, I am currently myself in a relationship with a man 10 years older and can positively say that it has been the best thing that has ever happened to me.
For me, it has never been a taboo subject or out of the ordinary as my parents also share a 12 year age gap. However, most recently, I had a close friend reach out to me for advice. She was set up on a blind date unknowingly with an older man, had an amazing time but wasn’t sure to take it further considering the age gap of eight years.
So, here is what I told her about older men:
1. An older man is more likely to talk about his feelings
Even if they may not open up straight away, they have more of a tendency to take their time to gather their feelings and maturely sit down with you and discuss the matter in hand. Men, in general, tend to have difficulty in communicating their feelings, but older men understand its importance and they take the time to try and discuss things with you.
2. An older man can help you expand on your individuality
Almost to the extent where they help you develop who you are and come out of your shell to find your true identity. They have already been through this period of growing up and finding themselves, and realize the advantages of embracing their true self. Therefore, they are understanding and supportive in helping you find yourself and being sure of who you are.
3. An older man truly appreciates your individual beauty
With age, they have learned to appreciate inner beauty in preference to exterior, and they’re capable of looking past your bed hair or imperfections to truly love you for who you are. They have seen and experienced what age does to the body as well as learned to value a long-term beauty over short-term youth.
4. An older man is your rock
They generally have more assurance developed from their experiences and knowing where they are going. Therefore, it is more clear where you are going and their intentions. As they have already lived through a lot, they are ready for you to turn to them when and if you need to.
5. An older man will be stimulated by your youth
When we are young, we tend to be more outgoing, excited, and stimulated by so much more. Just like laughter, this can be contagious and there is no better feeling than feeling young again.
6. An older man plans for the long term
They have lived their youth and freedom and therefore have more of a tendency to want to settle down and meet “the one.” Therefore, they won’t waste your time as they won’t invest their time in something that won’t last.
7. An older man is a lot more attentive
They have had more time to understand what a woman likes and how to treat her. Their values have also changed, and they will spend more time showing you how much they care, rather than just saying it, as actions speak louder than words.
8. An older man is more respectful of exes
They may have already loved and lost, been through a divorce, or even have children from a previous relationship meaning they are more respectful and understanding of exes. He will be open to any contact made with them as he would expect you to do the same.
9. Older men are independent
This not only allows you not to lose your independence but also means they are most likely financially independent and value themselves and free time as he would expect you to value yours.
10. Older men have more experience under the sheets
Having lived and learned, they know exactly what buttons to press. What else could you ask for?