It was only a few weeks ago that some ladies took to a popular Twitter influencer’s timeline to gist about the lengths they have had to go to keep their boyfriends and husbands. Sadly, those ways as espoused by those ladies are far from the ideal ways of keeping your man. I’m pretty sure you know what I’m talking about but if by any chance you don’t, just log on to Twitter and search for the name “Oloni”.
And in the process, another popular “influencer”, this time on Instagram, came into the mentions – can you guess who it was?
While I cannot verify the authenticity of what some of those persons claimed, but I am sure it is not something I will be encouraging anyone to do. But just in case you’re still wondering, they say she helps women use jazz to either attract or keep men and it is exactly that – jazz – that some of those ladies on Oloni’s thread were talking about. They confessed how they had used black magic to either lure or keep men that catches their fancy.
Sad, I must say.
However, I want to teach you some ways you can use in keeping your man, without resorting to black magic. I cannot even start enumerating the disadvantages of luring or keeping a man with jazz.
So, let’s get into 3 ways you can legit get your man for keeps.
1) Stay interesting and interested
Many times, ladies forget how they were when the relationship began. We think it’s just men who are guilty of this, but women are also guilty of it as well. When you first begin a relationship with him, remember how you would always think of new, interesting and exciting things to do for and with him? We tend to lose that as the relationship progresses but men can feel it when we lose that vibe. So, in order to keep our man, we need to keep that early relationship vibe by staying interesting and interested. Trust me, it works a treat!
2) Don’t play games
You see, this should be advice No. 1, but no problem, let’s keep it going. We ladies are fond of something; always playing hard to get, even when we are already in a relationship. I should tell you this, it is a very terrible thing to do. It makes absolutely no sense in playing hard to get with someone you are already in a relationship with – what’s the point exactly?
You may have heard things like “don’t text back straight away”, “chat to other guys to make him jealous”, “treat him mean to keep him on his toes”. While the intention of these things might be to keep him interested, but you’re doing also under a disguise. In other words, you’re chasing him away.
It might seem to work in the interim, but for how long do you think he can keep up with that? If you’re with him and giving him the cold shoulder, somebody out there might be giving him the warm shoulder.
By playing games, you’re not showing him who you really are. You’re not giving him the best of yourself.
3) Be spontaneous
One thing men admire, even if they don’t tell you, is spontaneity. It thrills them to no end and it is a vital part of being able to have fun and enjoy life. Of course, making plans is fun too, but if you feel you can’t ever just decide to wake up in the morning and go and do something completely unplanned, you’re missing out.
Being spontaneous with your man is a chance to show him what you’re made of. There’s plenty of time later for the habits and routines that inevitably develop in a long-standing partnership.
And there’s nothing wrong with habits and routines, but we all need a break from them. Routine is associated with work and obligation, spontaneity with fun and freedom. Be the person your guy associates with fun.