If You Want To Marry Someone, Ask For Their Passwords First” — Pastor Dolapo Lawal Advises

In a viral video circulating across various platforms, Lawal insisted that openness should be a fundamental requirement in marital unions, urging prospective partners to test each other’s level of transparency before committing. He maintained that any refusal to grant access to personal accounts should be considered a red flag, stating that “if you want to marry someone, ask them for their passwords to everything, and if they refuse, you should reconsider the relationship.”

He further questioned the idea of physical intimacy without emotional and financial openness, arguing that it was inconsistent for partners to share physical vulnerability while maintaining secrecy in other areas of their lives. Lawal also compared bodily exposure to financial concealment, stressing that true marital unity should involve complete openness.

Referencing Christian teachings, he linked his position to biblical principles, citing Romans 8:32 to support his argument that total access and generosity should reflect in relationships. His comments have since sparked mixed reactions, with many Nigerians divided over the balance between privacy, trust, and transparency in modern relationships.