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Expanding Your Network.

By: Douglas Ogbankwa Esq.

Your Net Worth is Determined by Your Network.

-Anonymous .

If you asked any person who is high up in life how he got there, you are going to find that he got there not just by his skill or qualifications but through the support and push of others.

Every one you meet in life is a potential part of your Network. It is like being a mobile phone network provider, if you do not have a base station in an area, there will be no network. Life is like a river, you have to build bridges to stay away from the stormy waters of life.

Tips to building your network.

1.Humility: This is the first thing that will attract people people to you. Always appear meek and do not assert more than who you are. Salute people at all times and answer greetings too. Never you outshine the master, as some times less is more!

2.Congeniality: Always be friendly with people and show an affectionate disposition. Be a giver of happiness and joy to people around you. Wear a smile when dealing with people and exchanging numbers with someone will not kill you! As a matter of fact most times it is in your interest to do so. Many persons have missed opportunities by saying “I do not give my phone number to strangers”. These Strangers some times can end up being the strongest link in your life!

3 Generosity: Be a giver to the people around you. People are attracted to people who are givers no matter how small they give. Those who give are not necessarily those who have, but those who want to give. Leave that change for the vendor if you can afford to. If people ask you for favours and it will not put you out, do it for them and they will owe you. You can also give your time and your expertise.

4.Transparency and Honesty: Be honest in all your dealings and do not rip people off. Be truthful at all times and do what you need to do for people when you need to do them. Do not bother about taking small money that will cost you big opportunities tomorrow. “Yam wey dey hot na small small dem dey chop am”.

6.Take your best shot at first impression: Always give a good first impression of yourself, it will factor in whether a person will ever see you again. You do not have a second chance to make a first impression. Whenever you are at the big stage, give it your best shot. “Na from the smell of mess, dem dey know the taste of shit”. Give a good account of your self to people, your biggest break in life always comes from recommendations from those you had dealings with.

7.Competence and Expertise: Be the best in anything you do. Do not be an “it does not matter person”. What you think does not matter, actually matters most to some people. Improve on your skills and always be ahead of your peers. Learn about recent developments in your trade or profession and be a stickler for details. Never take anything for granted.

8.Increase Your Value: Having a wide network does not mean appearing commonplace. Absence makes the heart grow fonder. Nothing that is commonplace has value. Look at the things in life you run after, it is because it is scarce. Sometimes, as a person you have to create an artificial scarcity of yourself, else you will lose your value. This includes in your posts on social media.

8.Keep Friends: It is not every man or woman, you come in contact with you must have sex with. Sometimes, you need members of the opposite sex who are just friends. Friends sometimes stand stronger than brothers and sisters. Some of the biggest opportunities you may have in life can come from that a friend of yours who is a member of the opposite sex. You can not be bigger than how the friends around you perceive you.

9. Money is always the easy part: In the Movie “The Devil’s Advocate”, Al Paccino was having a conversation with one Kelvin Lomax played by Keanu Reeves, Al Paccino said:

“Pressure, pressure, I am worried about pressure. Can you summon your talent at will? Can you meet deadlines and sleep at night?”

Then Keanu Reeves asked Al Paccino: “When do we talk about money?”,
“That is the easy part ” answered Al Paccino.

Some people sacrifice relationships for money not knowing that it is not money that makes you rich, it is relationships that will give you mega money to get rich. Life is not mathematics. In life, 1+1 is not always 2, sometimes it could 0 or even 1 Billion. If you are given one million naira today chances are that you will not become rich, what will make you rich is having relationships that will not make you run out of millions in the future. It will take time, but keeping genuine and loyal relationships pays in the long run.

10. Oil Your Relationships: Always check on people on the phone, WhatsApp and Facebook. A single like on a person’s post on Facebook can make the person happy. “Good Morning Sir/ma! Just checking on you, I hope you are fine?”. This simple SMS or WhatsApp message would count if you require help from a person. Rejoice with them, when they are rejoicing, mourn when they are mourning. Attend their ceremonies and contribute to the same if you could make some contributions. Don’t just go there, eat, drink and go. Leave an impression!

If you do not change the oil in your car engine, the engine will knock. That is how relationships are.

The list is not exhaustive.

About the Author :

Douglas Ogbankwa Esq., @ douglasogbankwa@gmail.com, is a Benin Based Lawyer and Writer .

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Jerry Gana, Others Readmitted Into PDP



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Former Minister of Information, Professor Jerry Gana, has been formally readmitted into the Peoples’ Democratic Party (PDP) alongside four other prominent former members of the party who earlier wandered away from the North Central Zone.

Gana had left the PDP to join the Social Democratic Party (SDP) toward the build-up of the last general election in 2018 where he contested for the presidential race.

The four others also readmitted on Saturday at the zonal congress of the PDP which held in Makurdi, the Benue State capital, include, Barrister Humphrey Abah, Esther Audu, Adakole Ijogi and Bagudu Hillson.

The ex-minister in his speech on behalf of the others readmitted hailed the leaders of the party for readmitting them back into the PDP fold.

“We are happy to be back,” he said.

Gana said Nigerians rely on the PDP to rescue the country from the doom it is headed for.

“Nigerians expect you to take over the governance of this country for good governance to ensure the peace and security of this country. I, therefore, urge the PDP to mobilise together and be united to rescue Nigeria and restore good governance, ensure security of lives and property and instill confidence in the minds of all Nigerians,” he added.

Gana further recalled that before 2015, the PDP was in power in five out of the six states of the North Central before but that as at today, only Benue is remaining and stressed the need to reclaim all the other five states back into the PDP fold.

“Now that we are back, we will do our best to remobilise, rebuild and reunite the party to take up the mantle of leadership come 2023,” the former minister posited.

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Expectations Vs Reality: If You Must Give Lagos The Credit Then You Can As Well Give Tinubu The Credit



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Since we have established the fact that the 2023 General elections are the major subjects we have at hand then we can as well discuss the expectations and reality as we march towards 2023.

Whatever that is threatening us as a Nation, be it food security, housing, insecurity, banditry, insurgency, name it the solution lies only in a near-perfect government in place.

For me, the only way we can be able to benefit from the desired changes we seek still remains in the kind of leadership we put in charge of our resources.

One major election that is of interest to everybody irrespective of location, religion and nationality is the 2023 presidential election.

Would Nigeria get it right this time around? What have we learnt and how can we make amends?

The 2023 presidential election is not expected to generate much furore like the way it does today because apparently, politicians that seek electoral offices ought to have a record of performance as a template to be evaluated.

Again the performance is not really concentrated on the party alone but majorly on the individual, governance is 80 % on the integrity and reputation of the leader you vote in.

Political parties especially the major ones we have today(the APC and PDP) are practically one and the same.

As a matter of fact, 70 % of APC governors, senators, reps members and ministers we have today were once in PDP.

Nigerians fail to always distinguish between expectations and reality. What we expect might be what gladdens our heart but the reality might very well be the opposite. And fortunately or unfortunately reality is what counts.

I have been a very strong advocate of Asiwaju Bola Ahmed Tinubu and daily I give my reasons for my support.

Least I forget the youths are totally out of the equation as we approach the 2023 PRESIDENTIAL elections, now the time frame has knocked them out of contention, so in reality, I won’t waste my precious time discussing what is fruitless.

Although I am happy that lots of youths are participating in other elections that involve other political offices.

So who does the cap fit? Good question, first and foremost the reality proves that the likely contestants for the 2023 presidency are either past governors or serving governors, only Atiku and Osinbajo seems not to have fallen in this category of never serving as a Governor.

Anytime I make a post I see confused fellows that don’t even have a presidential choice yet shouting, Tinubu can not be president he has Lagos in his pockets. They keep shouting that Tinubu has enslaved Lagos bla bla bla.

Yesterday I listened to a confused friend who argued all day how Tinubu has Lagos under his firm grip.

When he finished his sermon I asked him why are you vilifying Tinubu when it comes to Lagos economy and yet refuse to give him the credit that Lagos is among the fastest-growing city in the world with one of the best economies in Africa.

I keep saying the heart of some people are desperately wicked, you hate someone over a State you give credit to as the only State in Nigeria where everything works.

You claim Tinubu is killing Lagos yet you don’t give credit to Tinubu for the GREATNESS of LAGOS,  just see how pessimistic and dangerously wicked you are. Who does that?

Hypocrites, if Tinubu is that bad why is Lagos better than the rest?

They will tell you don’t compare Lagos with Edo State bla bla bla, Lagos has a seaport, Lagos has this Lagos has that, and I ask what stops your government from not having theirs? Lagos is not the highest earners of federal allocation.

Now let us retrace our steps and ask ourselves what led to the struggle that Lagos is today an INSTITUTION that works? For over three years, Obasanjo denied Lagos its Federal allocation over the creation of LCDAs by Tinubu.

You see when I point out such fact,” BODY GO JUST DEY PEPPER’ these detractors and THEY BEGIN TO throw tantrums at my personality, they won’t look at the message but rush to attack the messenger.

Can Edo, Delta State, Kwara or any other State survive six months without allocation? I am asking for my late father.

Tinubu challenged the “gods” then (PDP) and looked inwards, more like when they say I AM AN INDEPENDENT WOMAN.

I was listening to Destiny Child’s “Survivor” and I have decided to share some of the lyrics here.

“Now that you’re outta my life, I’m so much better…You thought that I’d be weak without ya, but I’m stronger..You thought that I’d be broke without ya, but I’m richer…You thought that I’d be sad without ya, I love harder…You thought I wouldn’t grow without ya, now I’m wiser!
You thought that I’d be helpless without ya but I’m smarter……

I’m a survivor (what), I’m not gon’ give up (what), I’m not gon’ stop (what), I’m gon’ work harder (what)”

Google the lyrics survivor by Destiny’s Child and you would be thrilled.

They said it all… PDP wanted to teach Lagos a lesson and wanted it to be weaker but they came out stronger, they wanted them to be poorer but they came out richer……

Tinubu was the one who laid the foundation for a strong and independent Lagos and you claim he is evil.

Name your former or serving governor that can survive without federal allocation and come out richer?

Tinubu is way ahead of the game, Tinubu would take Nigeria to a state of independence from the fraudulent colonist that perpetually keeps Nigeria under bondage, the heartless bandits and insurgents etc.

If you must give LAGOS the credit then you must give TINUBU THE CREDIT.

Tell us what your governor did with your State that you choose him ahead of Tinubu? Lagos is great, Lagos is the home of the hardworking, Lagos is bla bla bla and yet you say Tinubu is wicked and same time holding Lagos to bondage and yet the Lagos that you say is in bondage is among the fastest-growing cities in the world.

These detractors come from a State, they should tell us what progress their State made when their hero was a Governor?

They keep masturbating on Tinubu while he turns into a national movement and a rallying point for the progressives.

Name any likely aspirant that seeks the 2023 presidential election and tell me who amongst them has an enviable record of performance like Tinubu? Lagos is built on continuity hence the foundation is growing stronger.

Go to Lagos on a tour today and go back a year later you will be marvelled. Can that be said of so many other states?

Some after 6 months the road you passed to visit the city may not be available again, then the government would blame the past governor for the decay even when the governor has spent above 6 years in office.

When there was no allocation to Lagos for years did you hear Tinubu shouting that there was no money to pay salaries and pensions?

But today some governors will pay salaries and take to social media in celebration. Look at the kind of projects that local government executives in Lagos execute and compare them to some State projects?

Make dem clear road for Jagaban jor, in terms of sense for head Jagaban no get mate. Haters will never want to face reality.

Osigwe Omo-Ikirodah writes in from Abuja.

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See The Condition PDP Governors Gave To Avert War In Nigeria



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Governors elected on the platform of the Peoples Democratic Party (PDP), on Friday, said Nigeria may become a failed state under the All Progressives Congress (APC) government.

The governors reaffirmed that urgent devolution of powers and restructuring had become imperative, warning that “Nigeria cannot afford another civil war”.

After a meeting in Makurdi, the Benue State capital, their communiqué said the country was drifting due to insecurity and deteriorating relationship between various groups.

The governors observed that differences were being stretched to the limit “by a government that clearly lacks the capacity to govern”.

The meeting agreed that this has given rise to ethnic and tribal tensions, religious divisions, and various forms of social and political cleavages. The governors insisted that Nigeria is in dire need of leadership, “to avert the looming disaster”.

The PDP chieftains protested that their “hands are tied behind” because the entire “coercive authority in the country” is monopolized by the APC government.

They said time has come to take advantage of the ongoing Constitution Amendment process to decentralize Nigeria’s security architecture and adequately involve States and Local Governments.

The communique urged the Revenue Mobilisation Allocation and Fiscal Commission to send a new Allocation Formula that allocates more resources to States and Local Governments to the President for National Assembly’s action.

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